(My way of telling my students/“kids” I love them, but I had to follow my heart) It wasn’t easy to make the choice to step away from teaching - a profession I’ve been in for 6 years. My love of the sciences, teaching a younger generation and attempting to make an impact on their lives in a way that led them to be better people was a calling I had in college, and probably even before that. It was really tough to leave. I definitely cried over it, for weeks. Thinking about leaving those kids was on my mind constantly. You never really know how much you love your students until you don’t see them every day. But, I knew something was missing in my life, something was wearing on me. My mental health was struggling and the stress I was experiencing was not what I wanted every day. I had lots of support while teaching, from my administrators, my colleagues, even from my students. But sometimes, you have to follow what your heart is telling you.
I’ve always been a person who falls in love with a lot of different things. I love Shark Week, I love planning lessons, I love decorating my home, I love dogs, I love details in things that some people might not notice, but make a huge difference. One of the things I’ve noticed since I got married to my incredible, compassionate, hilarious, goofy husband was how much I love love. If that makes sense? He’s made me a sap.
I love seeing other people follow their dreams, follow their hearts. I love seeing people who have found their person and get lost in how much they love each other. I love seeing it expressed during their engagement sessions and even more on their wedding day. That’s something I’m able to see each and every day with my new job. I’ve only been with Bailey Keller Photo and Design for a few months now, but I can feel that I’m truly excited for the future and whats to come.
I’m never good at posting too much about what’s going on in my life but this career change was pretty big. I felt like I owed those kids, my kids, a little explanation. (My kids refers to all those I’ve taught, you’ll always be “my kids” ) This was a big, terrifying, exciting step in a direction that was completely unknown. However, one that I think has made me happier. And by golly I love getting to know couples and watching their love unfold at every event. Teaching will always have a special place in my heart, and those kiddos will always be “my kids.” They won’t get rid of me that easily as I plan to sub throughout the school year when I have time. I hope that I was teaching my kids something when I told them I was leaving: the lesson that you need to make sure that you are doing something that scares you, challenges you, but ultimately makes you happy.
I guess here’s my point: do something that scares you. Not everything is going to be easy, especially when you’ve been in something secure for so long. Your fear should never hold you back from doing something you love. This doesn’t mean you get rid of your fear, it just means that you meet it and tell it that you can do new things, even with it alongside you.
Why would you need a second shooter? Isn’t one photographer enough? Isn’t it more expensive to hire a second shooter? How is a second shooter going to add anything to my wedding day?
These are the questions I asked when I got married and started looking at photographers! In my mind, I was like “nah, we don’t need one, our photographer can handle it,” “It’ll be too expensive” and “they won’t really get anything additional than what my photographer would have.” Now don’t get me wrong, my photographer did an AMAZING job, but I know that I would have received so many more intimate and special moments if I had gotten a second shooter.
When brides reach out, many, if not all, want those candid and imperfectly perfect shots of the love they share with their significant other. On your wedding day there is SO much going on! There are so many different angles that you’ll want to be captured to perfectly showcase the amazing day you’re having! You only get that one time and that one shot before the moment is gone. Make sure you capitalize on it.
Your photographer may be an elite pro with years of experience, but they cannot be in all places at once! That’s where a second shooter comes into play! When you hire a second shooter, you’re really hiring another body to capture your day twice over! They see little things that the main photographer may not see. They are there to help hone in on the little details for you. They are there to help this be the best day possible too! They are a different eye for you to get the best out of your incredibly loving and intimate moments. One of our second shooters, Kelli, says that she loves so many things about second shooting weddings: "capturing the photos that are different perspectives and angles than what Bailey’s are, interacting with the bride and groom” and she absolutely loves "hearing [the bride and groom’s] love story”!
So if you’re thinking “I'm not sure if I’d need one,” think about all the important moments that you want captured. Think about how you want yourself walking down the aisle BUT also the look on your fiance’s (soon-to-be-hubs’) face too! Sure, your photographer can get a few shots of each, but having them go back and forth between a bride and groom takes time and you might lose that ONE chance to get that photo. Your second shooter is all in on your story and capturing it perfectly so you remember the day, from all angles.
This is a blog written by me, Bailey, with opinions straight from my brain. Read or don’t. Just here to try and hype my ladies up and remind them their body is a working machine. It’s not a just a shiny object to look at.
We all have opinions on body image, but I feel 'image' is almost the wrong word. If you’re around my age, 26, then you grew up with celebrity women being praised for their beautiful, perfect sized bodies. This held us to a standard. A standard that, in my opinion, is bullshit. (Yeah I said it)
My weight has fluctuated up and down SO much since I was in middle school. Yeah, middle school. I gained weight, but it wasn’t even to the point of being unhealthy. Like, I was probably just going through puberty... I believe it was my junior year in high school when I started eating less. I’m not here to say I had an eating disorder or anything, but it turned to the point of being unhealthy. I was skipping breakfast and most of the time, lunch. I would only eat supper. Doing this I lost a lot of weight. All I remember was how praised I was by my friends, my sports coach and even family members. Now, I’m not saying they shouldn’t have given me compliments or that I blame them for anything, but why was I only getting praise and called beautiful when I was “skinny” and not before. An Unhealthy skinny I might add. I was NOT getting the nutrition my body needed, being a 5’9’’, highly active 17 year old.
What I’m trying to say is, most of us have a similar story like this and that’s why we hate ourselves when our body weight or shape changes. We’re being compared to these “ideal” bodies on the internet or in magazines, when the “ideal” body weight and shape is different for every body. Do you feel good in your body? When I ask this, I don’t mean when you look in the mirror. What I’m asking is, do you feel good when you're at work, running around with your kids or doing your favorite hobbies? If you feel good, then you are good. The way you feel is more important than the way you look.
I really could go on and on but I think I’ll end here for now. I’ll be back. Here’s some advice before I go…. Stop taking before and after images. Your body is way more than that. Remind your daughters and friends that they’re more than a body. YOU are more than a body.
P.S. Read the book More Than a Body, you won’t regret it.